I don’t know about you, but it does NOT bring me joy to be the one who has to tell my son “no”. I have this fervent wish that all parents could get together and settle on the “ground rules” so each child would receive the same privileges and punishments and I wouldn’t have to hear about how “unfair” life in our house is when I tell my son no, while the kid next door is getting a yes. I like to think that my No’s are based on my experiences and that my guidance has my son’s best interest at heart. I am not here to be his friend- he has plenty of those his own age. I am here to encourage him to make good decisions, teach him kindness and compassion, and to demonstrate hard work while setting and reaching new goals. Sometimes this process involves saying a lot more “no’s” than “yes’s”.